Bondage - What is it and how exactly does it work?

At the latest since the bestseller "Fifty shades of Grey", bondage games have arrived in bedrooms all over the world and it is no longer just seen as a strange practice, but is used with pleasure. Tying up your partner gives you the feeling of power, or the tied-up person the feeling of submissiveness. Many people probably only know bondage from the BDSM field. BDSM is made up of the words "Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism". Today we want to look at the different types of bondage, how you can implement it in your own bedroom and which utensils are best suited for it.

The preparation for bondage sex

It is important that you trust your partner completely. Remember, once you or your partner are tied up, the person is completely at your mercy and almost too defenceless. Therefore, trust is the key to this sexual practice. Talk to your partner about your wishes and ideas beforehand and listen to what your partner wants and imagines. Clarify how far you want to go and are allowed to go. Watch films together that give you both an idea of what you could expect or use them to get ideas. The man can be tied to the bed to give the lady power over her husband, or the man will tie the woman to the bed. Discuss whether you would rather be the dominant partner, the one who ties up, or the submissive partner, the one who is tied up.

Arrange a code word with your partner. This code word can be anything you can think of. It is best not to choose words like "no" or "stop" because you might use them in another context. Choose a word that comes easily and quickly from your lips but is not part of your everyday language use in bed. It can be an animal, a special food or a name, there are no limits to your imagination.

You can incorporate your bondage into role play and start slipping into your roles first, or you can enjoy togetherness beforehand with a glass of wine and candlelight, a delicious meal, a bubbly warm bath together or blindfold your partner. When you have tied up your partner, leave the room for a while and let him wait. This increases the pleasure for both partners and creates excitement.

Which materials are suitable for bondage sex?

In general, there are two types of restraint. Simple restraint to make a person defenceless and bondage, which is usually associated with pain. In the further course of the text, we will not use bondage as a synonym, but will clearly distinguish bondage and relate it to BDSM.  

For simple bondage on the bed you need rope, handcuffs or even everyday objects such as a tie, a silk scarf or similar. In specialised shops or on the internet you can buy skin-friendly ropes, mostly made of cotton, in different lengths and thicknesses. You can also buy handcuffs that are made of rubber or padded so as not to injure your partner. Remember, your partner should always be able to free himself in an emergency.

Otherwise, all other utensils, armour tape, cable ties, all kinds of ropes or chains are also suitable for bondage to tie someone up during sex.

The correct bondage knot

Not only the right rope is important in bondage eroticism, but also the right knot. The right knot is therefore important so that the tied partner, when he moves and also pulls on the rope, does not tighten the knot and thus cut off the blood supply and so that you can also easily undo the knot later without having to cut the rope, or possibly the good tie. Take your rope or scarf in the middle and hold the rope there so that both ends hang down. You now have double the rope and wrap it twice around the part of your partner's body that is to be tied up. This way you can now tie one or even two normal knots that are easy to untie and do not tighten when your partner moves. This knot is the basis for tying a woman to the bed or also for tying a man to a chair, for example. We have selected a clear and quick tutorial for you to safely tie your partner to the bed.

What are the bondage techniques?

Theoretically, they can tie up any part of the body that you can put a rope around, so with the right bondage technique you can tie up the penis as well as the breasts during extreme bondage play. You can tie your partner to the bed, to a chair or tie another object.

Bound to the bed and other objects

For newcomers and beginners, bed restraint is best. You can use the bars or struts of your bed or, with a long rope, the legs of your bed. However, check beforehand that your bed construction or the struts can withstand tension and strain, not that your bed breaks during your bondage sex games. You don't have a bed to which you can attach the restraints? That's no reason not to do it! With 5 metal eyelets available in DIY stores and 4 ropes of the same length, depending on the size of the bed between 1-3 metres per rope, you can build a simple but sturdy bondage construction. To do this, knot all 4 ropes to one eyelet and one eyelet to each end of the rope. Place the middle eyelet under the mattress in the center of your bed and place the ropes at each corner so that the eyes stick out a little from the corners of your bed and it looks like an X. Put the mattress back in. Put the mattress back in and the weight of the mattress and your partner will hold the construction in place. You can now attach ropes, but also handcuffs or other bodage utensils to the eyelets. The advantage is that the eyelets can be hidden under the mattress after the bondage games in bed, or you can easily take your bed restraints with you on holiday.

To the erotic lexicon

Tie up the body

You can tie up your girlfriend by only tying her feet, for example, or the woman ties the man to the bed with handcuffs. Here you can try it out and find out what you like best. The hands can be cuffed above the head or to the left and right, the same with the legs, either cuffing only the feet, or the thighs, whether spread wide or close together is left to your imagination. Of course, the places where you can tie someone up can be extended at will and with the self-made construction, the sex bondage can be used almost anywhere.

3 positions for erotic bondage games

1. The doggie position

In the doggie position only the partner is tied up, no fastenings to the bed are necessary. The partner kneels down and stretches the arms between the legs, so only the hands can be tied, or the hands are tied together to the feet, or the arms are tied behind the back. This position is also suitable for BDSM bondage games, as the bound person has little room to move and the dominant partner can hit the bottom with equipment such as the padel.

2. The Spredeagle

The expression spredeagle refers to a body posture in which the person sticks his arms out in legs like an X. This is also how the person is tied to the bed. This is also a popular bondage position, as you are directly at the mercy of the dominant partner. You can tie your partner lying on his stomach or lying on his back.

3. The butterfly

The submissive partner lies on his back on the bed and his feet and hands are tied together with a rope. Depending on how short the rope is or how tightly it is pulled, the person lies spread-eagled. From above, it looks like a butterfly, which is where the name comes from. In principle, only the arms and legs are tied together, but of course you can also tie them to the bed.

Advanced Bondage

If you have now dared and also tried out bondage with your partner, then you can try out different bondage practices. There are not only some positions, but also different utensils. In specialised shops or on the internet you can buy special outfits for bondage or special BDSM restraints. These are belts made of leather with loops, special restraints for the penis or breasts. But even for advanced users it doesn't have to be an expensive special accessory, try out new positions, pull the ropes a little shorter and be creative.

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